Any relationship goes through difficulty or crisis at some point in time. The crisis can be brought about by a break-down in communication or trust, an affair, growing apart or external factors like illness, job loss or family matters. The ultimate care you can show your relationship, is to seek counselling when such a point is reached, and as a couple you can find a way out of the difficulty.
It takes tremendous courage to come to the point to the point to book a counselling session and discuss your relationship concerns with a stranger. Unfortunately, couples sometimes only seek counselling when there is no hope left for the relationship. It then becomes very difficult to restore hope and work on the challenges, and often couples give up on the process as they don’t believe their efforts will bring about positive change.
To work on your relationship issues requires energy and a firm belief that the relationship crisis or difficulty can be overcome. This is based in hope and unconditional love. It is therefore best to seek counselling before the depths of the crisis point is reached and all hope is lost.
In relationship counselling I focus on the relationship as my client. The process focuses on restoring and doing hope. If damage was done to the relationship, we explore what restitution and forgiveness would look like and what needs to be done to do sorry. If skills are needed to listen and communicate better in order to understand one another and have heartfelt conversations, we will explore these.
Relationship counselling can be a powerful and healing process for the couple. It also does not have to be problem- or crisis centred. Showing care for our relationship means that we can regularly check in with a relationship counsellor regarding our mutual journey and level of connectedness, so that we can feel fulfilled in our relationship and deeper levels of intimacy as well commitment can be explored.
To book relationship counselling sessions with me, contact me at 083 764 5978 or e-mail johann@johannvangreunen.co.za.